All cats adjust at their own speed. Java was ready to meet Amelie as soon as she was in the door, and she wasn't interested in having anything to do with him for a week.
Even though mine are both indoors, chipped, with no chance of getting out--Java still gets a collar so he can have a bell. He's enough of a troublemaker than I figure Amelie needs advance warning that he's coming her way. ;)
I think that Ashley being old and grouchy is our biggest risk. Thankfully she's a coward, so hopefully they will hiss and get to know eachother, then she'll run off and hide when she is upset and come out when she feels like it.
Another thing I thought of, that I've seen help cats with anxiety issues, Amelie among them, is Feliway:http://www.feliway.com
It might help your shy girl feel a little more relaxed.
Any idea where to buy this besides online? I wanted to get some, but having it this week would be ideal.
They sell it at Mud Bay. :)
Great! I can get treats there too.
And they're usually good about taking things back as well, when I first used Feliway a few years ago, they said they'd be happy to give me a refund if I didn't see it working within a few weeks.
whoa you got 3 girl cats?! That might be it...I've always been told that same sex kitties tend to be more combative. I'm sure they'll ease up after a week or two!
Yes, we did, but we asked at the shelter and they said that since the 2 girls we got already were living together peaceably that it comes down more to the cat personalities than just the gender.
I'm a fan of the collar with a bell (you could always remove when they get used to one another). When we introduced Cyder to Elliott and Chloe, he would sneak up on them and they'd be terrified. And sometimes, they'd forget he was there in the house completely but once they heard the bell, they would hear him coming and not get so angry. It really helped. Something to consider?
The hissing and growling is frustrating, but normal.
I like that you have three very different personalities <3
None of them are quiet, and Ashley is loud as can be with her hissing and growling. We will consider the bell if it can help. We don't have any youngsters likely to try to harass the other cats (one reason we didn't go for the younger boys as they are likely to do that). I think it's going to take reassurance for Ashley to calm down. Lots of petting and attention for her and let her know she isn't being replaced. Even though she doesn't want petting that much, she's jealous. In fact, she wolfed down her food this morning even though we have Tizzy locked in a room upstairs!
Another suggestion they give is to have Tizzy in a separate room with door closed and feed Ashley on the other side of the door... then Ashley will associate something she enjoys (food) with someone she doesn't yet enjoy (Tizzy). Heh. We did this when my cat & I were staying at my mom's with her cat and it worked pretty well.
They will figure it out eventually. I've found it to be easier to let cats adjust to the new surrounding piece by piece and keep them in separate rooms for a bit. If Tizzy is in a room by herself (door closed), does Ashley go to the door and hiss and growl at her through it?
Congrats on the new kitties! :)
We have Tizzy in a separate room with all of her stuff, but Ashley will come to the door and go crazy and taunt her through it. We now have put an upside down laundry basket in front of the door on Ashley's side to keep her from getting so close so that Tizzy can calm down today.
I have to laugh...that Ashley is a fiesty lady!
It will get better.
Ashley is just mad. And she wolfed down her breakfast to show us that she wasn't sharing with ANYONE. LOL
Oh my goodness, I'm such a dork. I completely forgot about Feliway! I just placed an order too. If you try it and like it, let me know next time you want to place an order. I order in bulk and it comes out to about $21.00 per refill. I would suggest two - one for upstairs and down. God, it totally mellowed out Cyder! I hearts the Feliway :-)
2009-07-06 09:15 pm (UTC)
P.S...More on Feliway & Mud Bay
P.S. go with the electric diffuser (lasts about a month - is a simple like a Glade plug-in).
Also, Mud Bay will easily become your new best friend. When you go in, tell them that you've adopted two new kitties and they'll give you any canned food (full size) of your choice, free to try. Sometimes, even a couple cans. They also have a large variety of sample packets in the hard food and free treat samples. The staff is super knowledgable and will replace any product you don't like.
2009-07-06 09:47 pm (UTC)
Re: P.S...More on Feliway & Mud Bay
I love them already because they gave us 10 cans of food trying to get Midnight to eat when he was sick as well as 8 types of treats. They were so good to us.
Wow, all girls? Craig is outnumbered!!! :)
I don't know if you have Walgreen's there, but they recently had their laser pointer/pen combos on sale for $3!!!
And of all the toys I've ever bought our cats, they far prefer an old sock stuffed with catnip and tied in a knot.
We put catnip on the scratching post for Tizzy but I have some socks that are loners who I could turn into a toy for her. Good cheap idea!
ha ha..sounds like the last 3 years of my nights since becoming a mom :)
Yes, those human pets are the most difficult of all. ;)