|Boyfriend of the Year
||[Oct. 1st, 2008|09:22 am]
Last night Craig told me that I'm the "love of his life". This after our conversation earlier in the day went like this.
Me: This shirt is too big! Dammit I'm still shrinking.
Him: I don't get it. Are you looking for more attention from me or something?
Me: *dirty look* No!
Him: Well then, I think this is a problem you can handle.
Me: I didn't want you to solve my problem, I wanted some empathy!
Him: What letter does Empathy start with? And what else starts with that letter? That would be estrogen. How about you find some women to give you empathy before my balls fall off.
I hate to admit it, but it did make me laugh. Luckily he was sweet last night, or his boyfriend of the year award could be in danger.
*snicker* Yep, he's a guy.
BTW, have you tried breaking the "no drinking with your meals" rule? It's one of the tactics they recommend for people having trouble with keeping on enough weight.
I realize with your pain (and if you're anything like me - the pain nausea that can come with that), eating more often might not be practical. And for me, eating carbs now makes my body very unhappy. (Yes, I still eat them too much anyway. My sweet tooth is so grand I simply pay the price for the indulgence, but not everyone is as thick headed or sugar addicted as I am. :/ ) So I know changing what you eat might not be an option either. But I find drinking with meals, when you can eat, you really are able to eat quite a bit more if you drink and flush some of your food through, allowing for a bigger meal.
BTW, no offense is meant here. I think your a lovely person, large or small. But I know how hard weight maintenance can be (though for me it's the other end of the spectrum - gaining - that's the problem.) I offer this just as a potential suggestion, just to try to be supportive. I really don't mean to come off as pushy or like your "you need to eat more" ex-friend... I apologize if this is coming off not well somehow. Please know my intentions here are good ones.
Thank you! No offense taken at all. The issue with eating and drinking at the same time is it makes me nauseated even more, but I have been trying things with more liquid in them like soup, and that works well.
You know, in a way, this is actually decent communication about the kind of support he feels capable of giving. (Especially if it wasn't mean. Though, it sounds more exasperated from the way you wrote it.)
Some guys just don't have a big empathy gene. I cracked up when I read it. I am not sure I would have laughed if someone said it to me in a particularly sensitive moment.
The two of you may not ever be able to have 100% of what you want from each other. If you can communicate about what you are able and willing to do to support each other, and figure out what you can both live with, I think you will both be pretty happy. No relationship is perfect.
As for the clothes: I know you would like to gain a little; in the mean time, do you know if there are manufacturers or clothing lines that specialize is extra slim cuts? You are too tall for petite line stuff, but there MUST be stuff for "willowy" types.
It wasn't said with spite. It was funny. There are lots of clothes, I just don't want to buy new stuff. I actually put on a few lbs this week, so it's going better. :)
BELTS are my friend as I have been losing. It still looks too big, but at least it looks less messy when I belt it. Not sure if that strategy would help you at all.
I have a few belts, but the problem is the more professional clothes which only really look good when they fit well, like my skirts, dresses, and tops.
Don't know if you've got H&M in your area, but their clothes are European-cut, so they're definitely cut slim. And dirt-cheap too. :-)
ROFLMAO. I think he and John could hang out.
Craig is funny. His lack of mean tone is what makes me laugh at this instead of be insulted.
Hahaha he's a funny guy. I hope to some day be related to him.
Well, his brother is single? *giggles* Just kidding.