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About 1% of females and 3% of males are estimated to have Antisocial Personality Disorder [Sep. 12th, 2008|04:44 pm]
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I wanted to point out that I have dated one. I've encountered another, and I've witnessed countless heartbreaks caused by this problem. Lying for no good reason and have an extreme sense of entitlement?

I have to say that it is now extremely easy for me to get over any feelings I had for these people and to get them out of my life. I simply realize that it was all a lie, and stop asking why. The why is simple. They use and manipulate people. It isn't personal. You can't "act differently" and get them to feel or change. You get out and you move on. You will notice when they do something bad, the screw up the apology because it's all about them. They do not care about the harm they do others. Look for the word, "I". "I feel so awful. I can't believe I did this. I am a terrible person. I don't know why I keep messing up." It's because they are pretending to fit in and failing. It's not to say it is easy for them, but it's a hopeless situation for you to try to fix it.

So, besides identifying them, here are some tips to deal with them: http://www.youmeworks.com/sociopaths.html

Remember, no therapy. Do not tell them you believe they are a sociopath. Just get out and don't look back. Do not let them explain. And check their arrest record and talk to the people they talked about. You will find out the truth.

[User Picture]From: thesugarmonster
2008-09-13 12:59 am (UTC)
My god. I'm absolutely positive I got wrapped up with a girl who would be categorized as this. I've cut off all contact and won't respond when she emails or calls me, even when she's apologizing and begging forgiveness and swearing she's changed. The insane situations she wrapped me up in makes an amazing amount of sense now.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2008-09-13 01:00 am (UTC)
Yep. I had an ex who was like this. It was very good to close up all contact.
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[User Picture]From: dove
2008-09-13 02:44 am (UTC)
By golly, I think I know who you're talking about. ;)

You're right about just getting out and not looking back. These people will only submit to therapy as a way of keeping you around to play with. They're not interested in changing.
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[User Picture]From: dove
2008-09-13 02:59 am (UTC)
I read up on your links. It makes me tense and angry to this day to think about him (and think about yours, for that matter). I want to kick his ass. It makes me SO effing glad I got out. And I didn't even get out because of knowing he was a sociopath. I got out because I had no energy left for my life after taking care of his. I was almost drained completely dry. I am so glad he never tried to come back or apologize.
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[User Picture]From: dkstwin
2008-09-13 06:46 am (UTC)
I wouldn't go so far as saying my ex-friend is a sociopath, but gee, she sure has some of the signs. She contacted me about a month ago and for the whole IM conversation my thought was, "I wonder what she's wanting from me?"
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