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In My Opinion,... [Feb. 28th, 2007|08:30 am]
Lanette
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Moral relativism, while it is easy to argue, doesn't really suit me. Neither does seeing everything in black and white. So here is some information about where I stand, and it is neither fully bendy or unbendable, but somewhere in the middle.

If you are a member of Show your [insert body part here] lj community, I'd rather us not be LJ friends. If you are here for porn, I'm not it, and I'm not interested. I have nothing against it, it just makes me feel kind of annoyed and nauseated, and is not what I use my computer for. I use mine for shopping, blogging, music, emails, sharing pictures, and research.

If you are in a poly relationship, then I accept your decisions as an adult, but don't expect me to be sympathetic and/or shocked when your relationships are filled with drama and fall apart, and most of all, don't waste your time trying to convince me that this is a "different but equal" lifestyle. Maybe in theory, but I've seen it in practice too much to believe that. It's your choice, and you get the results of it, not me. Hopefully you like those results. It makes me a rare target to speak out on my feelings about it online, as there is a rabid and vocal pro-poly online group, who while they insist anyone who doesn't agree with them is "narrow minded" is unable to tolerate anyone speaking out who believes otherwise. I didn't have anything to say about this until I saw it hurting people I care about, and now, screw it, I'll walk into traffic and share my feelings on it, because we all have a right to our opinion even if we don't agree.

If you think that all women should be Asian, then I'd rather you spend time at an Anime convention and not in my life. I think that all women should be themselves.

If you think that as an adult dating people under 18 is somehow "hot", then I hope you get caught legally.

If you are a man who thinks that anal sex is the holy grail, then I assume you have a very small wang and giggle at you.

If you think that love is important, then I want to hear all about it, even if it is expressed in a different way/form than what is natural to me.

The happiest place on earth is NOT Disneyland in my world. In not so many hours I'll be curled up with my boyfriend, hopefully not doing too much. I've never felt better or more relaxed, or more like me. I think I am the luckiest person to ever live to not just be with someone who "accepts me for who I am", but to be with someone who loves me and delights in who I am. He never rains on my parade, but he not only marches in it, but also seems to produce and umbrella when it does rain. So, I ask, what are those dreams that you never talk about? I don't just give my time, but I can't wait to. I do lots of things in life that must be done, but he is what I really want to do. Yes, I mean that both ways.

I post this with the full understanding that you may want to unfriend me on your LJ. Go for it. No obligation, no explaination needed.
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From: billyjoe4th
2007-02-28 05:52 pm (UTC)
Sounds to me like you are a grounded, easy to get along with person....
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-02-28 08:10 pm (UTC)
Sounds can be deceptive. :) I'm pretty easily annoyed. Natural redhead. I am nice, but not always easy to get along with.
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[User Picture]From: vivaine666
2007-02-28 08:33 pm (UTC)
Aw come on now, you are delightfully charming in all ways at all times.

Hmmm now why did I have to re-type every word of that sentence due to my fingers not wanting to type correctly? hehehe

I love you and you're entitled to your opinions. And I completely agree on the poly thing. I realize it works for some but that's a minority. The poly people I know say it's because those people aren't doing it "right". And maybe that's true. I think that people that want to try the poly thing should really intensely examine their motives, as I see a lot of people who are made unhappy by it. But I also know some people that it's working for. To me it's kinda like someone who wants to ride a motorcycle without a helmet (pretend it's not illegal). I think it's dangerous and that they would be more likely to get hurt and it's not something I would do, but if they think that would make them happy, what does it matter to me? I just won't be very surprised when they get hurt badly.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-02-28 09:35 pm (UTC)
WEll, I don't think being poly SHOULD be illegal, and I don't think riding a motorcycle without a helmet should be either, just that when either person gets hurt, it is up to them to take responsibility. They take the risk.

I mean, and they can't be too shocked if people say, "WTF? Why no helmet?"
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