|About 1% of females and 3% of males are estimated to have Antisocial Personality Disorder
||[Sep. 12th, 2008|04:44 pm]
I wanted to point out that I have dated one. I've encountered another, and I've witnessed countless heartbreaks caused by this problem. Lying for no good reason and have an extreme sense of entitlement?
I have to say that it is now extremely easy for me to get over any feelings I had for these people and to get them out of my life. I simply realize that it was all a lie, and stop asking why. The why is simple. They use and manipulate people. It isn't personal. You can't "act differently" and get them to feel or change. You get out and you move on. You will notice when they do something bad, the screw up the apology because it's all about them. They do not care about the harm they do others. Look for the word, "I". "I feel so awful. I can't believe I did this. I am a terrible person. I don't know why I keep messing up." It's because they are pretending to fit in and failing. It's not to say it is easy for them, but it's a hopeless situation for you to try to fix it.
So, besides identifying them, here are some tips to deal with them: http://www.youmeworks.com/sociopaths.html
Remember, no therapy. Do not tell them you believe they are a sociopath. Just get out and don't look back. Do not let them explain. And check their arrest record and talk to the people they talked about. You will find out the truth.