|Women Unlimited Memory Box
||[Jun. 18th, 2008|09:24 am]
|||||Career Orientated ;)||]|
We made a little paper box and on the outside we wrote reminders from Women Unlimited on every edge. Here is what mine says:
1. Fear is an excuse, not a reason.
2. Appearance matters. Be mature and credible.
3. Convey your competence and confidence.
4. Communicate for the listener. What's in it for them?
5. If you aren't hearing "No" you aren't asking enough. No means no for now.
6. PNQSQ Conference Abstract Accepted!
I gave mine a little twist. I put in my business card with edits on the inside and taped it closed. On the back I wrote the difference I want to make. Just wanted to share.
I'm saving a few of these as reminders for myself! You really inspire me to take control of my career goals. I've only ever done admin assist/office manager work and even though I'm unfulfilled I feel that, well, I'm good at it and I don't want to risk be awful and failing at something else. But you really do inspire me to try for more! Awww, so warm and fuzzy! =)
Thank you. I've always been pretty driven, but the training I've had lately helps.
Did that increase at all after surgery? Maybe not your drive but your willingness to forge ahead?
I know that a lot of my issues of settling stem from using my weight as an excuse. But I also know there's some basis in reality as well and that, at 550 pounds, people probably wouldn't have been chomping at the bit to hire me.
It certainly DID increase after my surgery but only after the mental changes that came with the surgery. That's really hard to explain without pissing people off.
I became more mature and responsible as a result of my surgery. It may not be that way for everyone, but it was for me. I think the therapy was part of it.
That makes a lot of sense. I can absolutely admit that I've ducked a ton of responsibility by blaming my weight. Career stagnation, relationship failure, etc. Even when I knew it was bullshit, it was just so much easier than actually dealing with the real issues.
I was also just eating around problems and not confronting them because I"m an emotional eater. I still am, but I'm making progress.
For example, yesterday they had these gourmet cupcakes. It was a SUPER stressful day. I walked by, grabbed my handful of cherries and cheese stick and ate those happily. Never EVER would have happened like that in the past.