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Making a Change-A huge goal-or anything happen [May. 28th, 2008|10:05 am]
Lanette

1. Get the right people in, the wrong people out. If you have someone dragging you down who is a negative energy drain or a source of major drama, honorably let them go their own way. Find people who raise your spirits who you support and who support you, and who care about you sincerely as an individual. If you can't find these people, why not? Are you not yet the kind of friend who can make and retain this kind of friend? Do you not make enough effort in this area? Are you reaching out to people? You want people who can lead and follow who will stand with you or alone. People who will tell you the truth, but not the brutal truth. If you don't yet have faith, optimism, and a good attitude, keep trying on step 1, keep trying on yourself. Until you have this you can't move on to step 2.

2. Decide where you are going and stick with it. Start small, make sure it's really important and something you are talented in and CAN have success with. For example, a goal to become a ballerina at the age of 34 without prior experience is next to impossible. However, I have some singing talent. The goal to at one point in life guest sing a song on stage with someone is a reasonable goal to stretch towards. Becoming a pop star? Not so much.

3. There is nothing as motivational as results. Stop talking and do something on a small scale. Nothing ever changed that didn't change a bit at a time. Even goals that seem to be instantly reached are years in the making. Celebrate each success you've earned and give thanks for each person who helped you along the way.

4. Tomorrow is coming if you plan for it or not. There's a difference between "not thinking about it", "not feeling you have the time to think about it", "not really knowing what you want", and "trusting yourself to deal with any situation that arises". Trust yourself to deal with whatever comes up, but if you don't have a good sense of direction, get on a team with one, and be a great team member. You don't have to lead everything, but at least take responsbility for your future by getting on the team that is the right fit.

5. Give back. Those who give some percentage to charity end up richer than those who do not. Those who are always helping others have others to catch them when they fall. It isn't how much you make that determines IF you give, it's how much you make that determines how much you can give.

6. If you don't have time to exercise, plan for the future, or advance your career, disconnect your television and internet. Now you have the time. Add back in electronics as is possible.

7. Ethics means making difficult decisions that you are proud of. If everything you did came out in the newspaper, how would you feel about it? Is that the person you want to be? Because that is the person you are being.

8. There is always a reason, but never an excuse. Understand the reasons why something is difficult for you, and then move on. A reason is an explaination, not excusing you from taking action. An excuse is a reason why you are giving up. There is a huge difference. A reason is explaining why you've changed course. Maybe you made a mistake? An excuse is why nothing is your fault and you have no responsibility. Know the difference.

9. It's hard to fail without whining and it's hard to win without gloating. That's why it is so important to know how to do both. I think that will be a work in progress for life.

10. The world stops for no broken heart. If yours is broken, get to work on repairing it. No physical disability could possibly be as big an obstacle in life as a heart without hope and love.

This isn't about personal life or work life. This is all of my personal growth, work, and life information consolidated to a few little points. I wish I could have sent this to myself when I was age 18. This isn't written out for everyone else. I write this for myself because it has been working and if I follow it, it continues to work. I can't, so now at 34 I send it to all of you and hope there is something in it that can be of help to you. What are you doing to make your future better?
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[User Picture]From: cerridwenskye
2008-05-28 05:48 pm (UTC)
this is off the topic of the post but congrats on becoming a mod of the wls community.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2008-05-28 05:53 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I'm worried about co-mod super_queen. Haven't seen her around. I hope she is doing well.

Edited at 2008-05-28 05:54 pm (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: christabel
2008-05-28 06:20 pm (UTC)
I think this is an awesome post. I definitely have eliminated myself from the fluff factor and try to associate with people who inspire me to be better and do more. I also have learned what my actual limits are and what boundaries can be tested and pushed. I've learned to think outside the box and be a problem solver. I allow adequate time to regroup when I encounter a setback but I also almost immediately begin formulating a game plan to get me back on track. If had been half as smart when I was 18 my life would be a lot different right now! lol Then again I wouldn't change the learning curve. I think I'm right here at the best possible time to be myself and I will succeed because I've failed enough to sharpen my skills, respect my gut instinct and eliminate any silly fears that were holding me back before. It's a continuing process though. Success isn't a finish line. It's about making progress every day. Every step DOES count. But you know that already. :)
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2008-05-28 07:28 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I have stopped stressing so much while driving and enjoy having the time to myself for these kinds of thoughts.
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[User Picture]From: nadalia
2008-05-28 06:26 pm (UTC)
Well said!!!
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2008-05-28 07:28 pm (UTC)
Thanks!
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[User Picture]From: pollyhyper
2008-05-28 07:45 pm (UTC)
Great advice!
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2008-05-28 09:38 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I'm really happy to see your post today. Glad you are looking in to many possiblities to reach your goals.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2008-05-28 09:50 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I love to write out my thoughts. It helps that I don't have a high pain level today. Those are the days my thinking is pretty jumbled. Then again, I got plenty of rest last night too.
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[User Picture]From: thesugarmonster
2008-05-28 10:01 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I really needed to read this. Right now I've become so overwhelmed that I'm nearly paralyzed. But, whether I like it or not, time is ticking away. And I didn't survive the last 29 years in order to have a "meh" life.

Again, thank you.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2008-05-28 10:09 pm (UTC)
I'm glad that it helped at all! Hang in there. :)
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[User Picture]From: dove
2008-05-28 11:05 pm (UTC)
Really well written! :)

Thanks sweetie.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2008-05-28 11:11 pm (UTC)
Thank you! I'm glad you liked it. It's a good reminder for me.
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[User Picture]From: jhollywood
2008-05-29 01:48 am (UTC)
I really appreciate and loved reading this. The advice comes at at a time I really needed it. Thank you.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2008-05-29 03:44 am (UTC)
Thanks! I'm really glad. I hope to come back and read it in the future on a day when I need it.
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