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Plus and Minus [Sep. 4th, 2007|09:40 am]
Lanette
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+Yesterday was one year from the first date Craig and I went on.
-We worked most of the entire weekend and still aren't finished, plus our garage is still filled to the brim with cardboard. 2 people in their 30's with different decorating styles who have been living alone for years and years? Not as easy to blend as you might think. We have made much progress, and good compromise, but this living together and owning a house together thing isn't all smooth sailing.
+We still love eachother and are both very glad we did it. We love the house, the kitties, and living together (even though some parts are hard right now, especially with all of the tasks).

+Ashley is feeling better and her paws look great now! Cats are getting along better (although Ashley doesn't approve of Midnight's attempts to play with her), eating out of the same dish, and even sharing a litter box willingly.
-Midnight, while darling and cuddly, has a new habit of screaming each morning between 4 and 6am like an idiot. The solutions I've come up with, such as drugging the cat, voicebox removal, and a muzzle are all too cruel for Craig to consider during the light of day.

+House is mostly set up! Thanks to help this weekend from Bel and my Mom (and of course Craig who did 1/2 the work). That is a huge relief.
-To do in house still: Craft room, finish living room, finish office, finish garage, finish our bathroom closet, buy bedroom furniture, sign up for alarm monitoring this week, mow lawn, trim plants, weed, clean, get food for housewarming.

-Body hurts. High pain levels and my right shoulder has been cramping up daily to the point it is hard to feel 2 of my fingers. I think I hurt myself in the move. I've also been congested for 8 weeks and I think I might get investigated for my use of Sudafed if it doesn't clear up soon.
+I'm cooking more, packing our lunches. So far it's not just saving money, but I'm down to my lowest weights ever. (some of that might be stress) I am a spry 1-2lbs overweight lately, depending on the day.

+Long term, we really can afford this house. It was the right price, and although I'm not used to ever having a credit balance, I think it is good that I have some credit I can use in case of emergency. We have insurance, and most of the basics we need at this point.
-Money is a bit tight right now. Ok, more than a bit. It's actually scary tight right now in light of everything we need to take care of our yard and the unfurnished rooms and the move. I know it will all balance out given time, but it is adding lots of stress at the moment.
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[User Picture]From: the_tatyana
2007-09-04 04:55 pm (UTC)
Don't stress out about getting everything done & furnished right away. Get settled. Do all the cheap stuff. Leave rooms unfurnished and let a few paychecks roll in. Once things get stable financially, you can take care of the rest a little at a time.

I made myself crazy doing what you're doing - trying to take care of everything in the first few months. Then I stopped, made a long-term "to do/to buy" plan, and everything has fallen into place since.

Best wishes! :>)
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-09-04 05:23 pm (UTC)
Thanks! Craig and I did sit down and prioritize and we made some compromises. For example, we found some furniture for our master bedroom and decided not to have a TV in our room so we dont have to buy the matching armoire. Instead we are just keeping the bed he has, getting 2 dressers and nothing else. RIght now we have our lamp on the floor, so the current lack of furniture is a bedroom functionality issue. As far as the other rooms go though, we are waiting on many things.
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[User Picture]From: ebullientjenn
2007-09-04 06:35 pm (UTC)
We don't have a TV in our bedroom. It's the best decision ever. If we're in bed and can't sleep we either talk or snuggle or scrump. Much better than watching tv!

Prioritizing is a good idea. We've put off redecorating the bedroom because we spend like no time in there. So priorities this year were the yard, and we'll get a couch. Word on the totally different decorating styles. We have so much trouble agreeing.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-09-04 07:01 pm (UTC)
Our master bedroom is the hugest and most beautiful room I've seen in a LONG time. It's tough having nothing in there but 1 ugly nightstand and 2 small dressers which match nothing when the rest of the room is so peaceful and elegant.

Craig loves blank walls and things which I think have "no personality". I put up my items and he thinks they are "tacky", "overwhelming", and "too much". For example, he has a "mission style" bed and I bought a fancy queen anne style dining set.
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[User Picture]From: puppie
2007-09-04 05:51 pm (UTC)
My stupid, block-happy company has decided that the PETA website should be blocked. But I'm pretty sure they have some articles about cat training out there, and articles for getting cats to stop keeping you awake during the night (cats are naturally nocturnal, so you've got to train them to not yell all night or whatever). I used those articles many years ago when a roommate had a cat that liked to yowl in the middle of the night. Hopefully those articles are still out there.

the website is peta-online.org

good luck!!
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-09-04 06:00 pm (UTC)
I took a look and did some searches, but didn't come up with any articles. Did any of the methods help with your rommate's cat?
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[User Picture]From: gonzy317
2007-09-04 06:00 pm (UTC)
I agree... make a list and prioritize those things you know you need now, and those you can deal with later. Heck, a year after moving into our house there are only 2 of 5 bedrooms with blinds... and they are paper! HA! (Yes, I know embarrassing and stupid, but hey, can't afford good blinds yet!) Things will even out. No one (well, almost) can afford to furnish their house within a few months!
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-09-04 07:02 pm (UTC)
Good point. I'll try to be patient about the bedroom, and it will come with time. I just expected that we would be in a bit better shape financially right now because we didn't have to pay our Mortgage on the first, but moving cost so much that really we didn't get ahead at all.
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[User Picture]From: ebullientjenn
2007-09-04 06:36 pm (UTC)
Can you do a spray bottle for the cat? Is he close enough where you can get him? Or with dogs they say to get an empty soda can, and put a few pebbles in, tape up the top and throw it in their vicinity when they're misbehaving. (not at them, near them)
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-09-04 06:59 pm (UTC)
He walks all around the house, usually downstairs, reowing non-stop. I think mostly he wants to be petted and kept company. The old cat doesn't want to play with him. I wish he would adjust to the new schedule. He loves the new house, but has been totally whiny about not going outside (even though the yard looks really interesting), and seriously, on a bad night he howls for 2 hours! He's too far away for a spray bottle and he does it too late/early for me to give him the safe herbal "rescue remedy" to calm him down.
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[User Picture]From: vivaine666
2007-09-04 07:03 pm (UTC)
"Not as easy to blend as you might think." HAhahahaha. Yeah. Easy. I can only imagine how things will be when Lan and I actually move to a new place. But that's a long time away.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-09-04 07:19 pm (UTC)
He's not so big on the roses?
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[User Picture]From: vivaine666
2007-09-04 11:41 pm (UTC)
He would like to remove EVERTHING that's not functional. Except pictures of his kids. Doesn't like decoration. Pah!
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-09-05 03:06 am (UTC)
Craig also isn't big on decorations. Phoey on them I say.
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[User Picture]From: teddyeddy
2007-09-04 07:19 pm (UTC)

ugh

I have the opposite problem, I can't buy an opinion from Mike!
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[User Picture]From: thought1
2007-09-04 07:58 pm (UTC)
According to vets and such, you're supposed to put out one more litter box than you have cats. We did this, and things settled down quite a bit between our two. It's at least worth a shot.
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[User Picture]From: starrynytes4me
2007-09-04 08:04 pm (UTC)
We do have that setup, but they are both using the same one anyhow most of the time. It's strange.
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