||[Jul. 26th, 2007|10:58 am]
All definitions from dictionary.com.
1. a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule others.
2. a policy, system of government, etc., based upon or fostering such a doctrine; discrimination.
3. hatred or intolerance of another race or other races.
1. attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of sexual roles.
2. discrimination or devaluation based on a person's sex, as in restricted job opportunities; esp., such discrimination directed against women.
Definition: Discrimination against someone on the basis of their physical size.
I have matured a bit in the past year and want to share my findings. These words do NOT just apply if you are a minority or for those who go against the established norms. If you think all very thin women are anorexic b*tches, you are sizeist. If you think that because I'm smaller than I previously was that I am more selfish and less caring of others, you are sizeist.
If you think that all men are incapable of expressing emotion (points finger at herself) and socially retarded, you are sexist. Yes, I am tired of having been sexist. Even though women are the minority, it doesn't make it any more reasonable to be sexist. Choosing someone to see as a doctor, lawyer, even a house cleaner based on their gender rather than their skills and how they fit for you is your consumer right. You get to choose. That doesn't mean that it is morally right. You are still making a decision based on gender that is unfair.
You can be of ANY ethnic background and be racist. If you think that all white girls are silly sluts who only care about money, celebrity gossip, and how they look, that is racist.
I am only sharing this because I find it very shocking that so many people believe that you can only be racist, sexist, or sizeist if it is against a minority group. It is discrimination no matter WHO it is against and I'm beginning to see places where I've just flat out been morally wrong. I'm trying to correct it and share my learning.
I wonder if it would still be sexist if...
Two doctors, equally skilled, equally published/educated/diploma'd, equally close (distance wise) to the patient, equal in fees.
Is it sexist to choose the female of the two if going for a female only biological problem? The reasoning being, one will have experienced said problem personally, the other will not.
Same for men choosing male doctors for complaints limited to the male biological system.
(I'm asking myself this as much as you, I'm thinking aloud as it were.)
That's a tough one. Doctor choice is an intimate decision, and each person has to decide what they morally feel good about for themselves, not anyone else can make that choice.
FYI-Have a very serious female issue as I do, I can share personally that I've had a female doctor with very little empathy and my current doctor is a male who I was referred to. He was an excellent surgeon and turned out to be a better doctor for me than the one I chose because he has the skills, experience and bedside manner. Shame on me for being reluctant to see him. For me personally, I think the right thing is to talk to both doctors and find the one who is the best fit in that circumstance. I learned something new from my experience with endo and doctors.
I have to agree. I've had both male and female doctors and have found that I've had better luck with male doctors. I've had great female doctors, too, though, just not in 'that' area. I try to base my opinion on meeting the doctor themselves and not on the gender. But its not always easy to do that...
I have to say, it's hard not to be shallow because part of it is your personal comfort. I had a REALLY smoking hot gastroenterologist. Imagine discussing butt problems with the hottest guy ever?
I did, but it wasn't easy.
ROFL! My gastro is very hot too! LOL!! I once had to change my gyn cause he was so hot. That was a little embarrassing... but I'm sure he could tell what I was thinking (no more details necessary, thanks!)
It seems to me that male doctors are generally more sympathetic to female problems rather than less. Maybe it's because the less-sympathetic female doctors haven't had the specific experience and so think that women who complain about cramps etc. are being whiners? I'm not sure, but I do know that, although I don't consider myself sexist, if I have a medical problem and can't get in to see my dr. and the clinic says I can see a different dr. I'll choose the woman if there's a choice between a man and a woman. Does this make me sexist? In that case I have nothing else to base my decision on.
Only you can know you true intent, and although it is quite minor, in my opinion, based on the definition, while you are well within your consumer rights, it is a sexist decision to some extent.
This is a bit off topic but I thought I'd interject. I had a situation with a doctor who was handicapped. I went to him once, and was shocked to find him in a wheelchair. I wasn't going to go back, but had to really examine why I felt that way. Eventually I came to the conclusion, it was just my own bias keeping me from seeing him again. Basicly, there was no reason he couldn't be a good doctor. Long story short, I kept seeing that doctor and feel like he was a really good doctor which is something that is hard to get when you are morbidly obese in my opinion. I often wondered if he was more "fat friendly" because he knew what it was like to be judged based on physical appearance. I had to move earlier this year so he won't be my doctor anymore, but I'm glad he was for a while anyway.
I totally agree. Looking at some of my past behavior, I just realize I have done alot of growing in this area, but could use to do even more.
Losing so much weight + the therapy has shown me how very defensive I was. I always felt under attack, so I was so busy defending myself that I couldn't look at my own bias.